You totally already know this, right? “Positive minds produce positive lives.” We’ve all heard it over and over. My mother used to simply say, “Be positive.” Much as I trust that you already know this, chances are, you need to hear it again. Some things can’t be drilled into our resistant brains too much. Like positivity! I might need to cut out this illustrated quote, paste it on a selfie stick and walk around everywhere with it in front of me. We need it written on a billboard on Highway 101. Better yet, how about every billboard on every highway says this, until our whole country gets it? It ought to be on Main Street, U.S.A. in neon lights. We need constant reminding and practice, until positivity becomes habitual. I need it. You need it. We need it. At least, that’s my feedback.
The truth is, a lot of us have a set point that screws negative. One of the 9 personality types on the Enneagram is primarily motivated by searching out and avoiding problems–The Doubter, Type 6. However, this type, also called the Security Type among other things, is a good friend to have. When your pal worries about every foreseeable foil in a plan, problems are avoided. Yet, it’s kind of like playing defense in a sport. They are always looking to protect. Don’t many of us operate this way to some extent?
Ask yourself: when you’re in a busy parking lot, are you mentally competing against everyone else for the best spot as they continue to be taken, or envisioning a rockstar parking place opening up for you? In the words of Eshter Hicks, Law of Attraction expert, “Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.”
Whether you play offense or defense in the game of life, we can expect curve balls. What then? Does our hard won positivity fly out the window with every foul ball? Consider your attitudinal set-point. Is it closer to positive or negative on any given day? And what happens when problems arise? Do you continue to focus on the desired outcome or get thrown off your game? Being positive is a big picture thing. Focus on winning, even as you get up from another fall.
Here are some quick tips to lock in your can-do attitude:
- Envision what you want. Imagine it. Journal it. Do a vision board.
- Reinforce the vision with what you say, think and do.
- Expect your dreams to come true. Have faith. And be open to accepting an even better outcome than you could’ve conceived.
If that doesn’t do it, try the selfie-stick idea. Be playful. Practice. And when building the positivity muscle gets tough, stay positive.